Relationship & Couples Counseling
“We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences” — Virginia Satir
Couples have particular needs that differ from those of individuals in therapy.
You each bring your individual and collective experiences, your dreams and hurts, along with the history of your relationship. The dynamic of your relationship has been co-created, and it is based on these hopes, fears, and patterns of defense.
I can help shift painful dynamics.
I can help you recognize and then shift these painful dynamics and learn ways to move into mutuality and loving connection. Based on your needs, I will re-create experiences similar to those that are troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.
Change how you act and react within relationships.
One or both of you may find yourself unsure of what you want in terms of your relationship. Sometimes the goal may be to become clear about the next steps. Regardless, understanding the patterns of how you act and react within your relationships, will be immensely helpful going forward.
I also draw on my experience leading relationship and couples workshops at The Haven Institute. Through this work, I have assembled a toolkit to help you untangle and deepen your relationship.
PACT is a fusion of developmental neuroscience, attachment theory and arousal regulation— meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage — and it has a reputation for helping couples work through their issues. Couples can develop secure-functioning relationships by understanding each partner’s early attachment responses and how this influences their current relationship. This helps you to build awareness so that you can choose to respond differently, helping you to have a healthy and strong relationship.